DEAR ABBY: My finest buddy of 60 years misplaced her husband 13 years in the past. She has one son, who’s profitable and busy along with his younger household. They attempt to embrace her in varied household gatherings, however she at all times has an excuse as to why she will’t attend — she doesn’t drive at night time, doesn’t like their mates, and many others.
The reality is, she begins ingesting at 2 p.m., and by 4 p.m. she begins sending me impolite, hurtful textual content messages. I’ve tried ignoring them, not responding, turning off my telephone, and many others. I do know she’s lonely, however she blames the whole lot on everybody else and takes no accountability for her personal actions.
I really like her however I can’t take it anymore. I’ve talked to her about this, and she or he simply laughs. Then that very same afternoon, after a number of glasses of wine, she throws it again in my face. Please advise. — OVER IT IN ARIZONA
DEAR OVER IT: By now it is best to have realized that as a lot as you want to, you’ll be able to’t repair what’s incorrect together with your “finest buddy.” Solely she will do this by lastly admitting she has grow to be an alcoholic and resolving to do one thing about it. The longer you tolerate her abuse, the longer she’ll maintain abusing you and herself.
Inform her as soon as and for all that you’ll not enable her to harm you, and till she demonstrates that she’s coping with her alcohol drawback, you need nothing extra to do along with her. Then step again and block her calls and every other communication. Pals don’t deal with their finest mates the way in which you might be being handled, and also you should not have to tolerate it.
DEAR ABBY: I really like cats and canine. We have now considered one of every. Each are indoor pets. My drawback is my spouse and daughter have stuffed our house with cat and canine paraphernalia of all sizes and styles. There are seven canine and cat beds in the main bedroom, 5 within the spare bed room, 4 in our daughter’s bed room, three in the lounge and one within the kitchen (as a result of our cat supposedly likes to look at my spouse cook dinner).
There are additionally cat bushes scattered about, a four-story cat cage, and cat and canine toys strewn throughout the flooring. There are packets of cat and canine treats all over the place. I simply love stepping on them whereas barefoot at night time. Am I unreasonable to counsel that our cat and canine needn’t be handled like royalty? I believe they’d be simply positive with one mattress every — you realize, like us people. — OVERRULED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR OVERRULED: It seems your spouse and daughter have gone overboard making an attempt to make sure that the furry members of the family are comfy. A compromise is unquestionably so as, notably concerning areas that YOU spend probably the most time in — like your bed room, front room and kitchen. It will even be thoughtful if somebody made certain the flooring are cleared of toys and treats earlier than bedtime so that you received’t be injured in your strategy to the toilet.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
